Tuesday, November 16, 2010

LIFE IS A CHANGEABLE THING, by Dora Silvers

Faye, my friend of 35 years, is in a home for Dementia.  It is very heartbreaking, how she has changed in the last year. Faye was an excellent cook and loved making lunches and dinners at our Temple. Faye has traveled to many countries and collected souvenir spoons. We went shopping together and the four of us went to the movies and theater together. 

Faye tuned to a completely different person.  Her quiet personality changed completely.  Her husband had to call 911; she was put into the Hospital.  Now, she will be going to a facility in Anaheim.  Her husband Joe is selling their lovely two story home, he will be moving into an  apartment.  It breaks my heart to know this is really happening.

Joe is going through a changing lifestyle.  They were married for over 60 years.  I was thinking that "Life is not fair".  I wrote this poem for Joe.

AFTER THE CLOUDS, THE SUNSHINE.
AFTER THE WINTER, THE SPRING
LIFE IS A CHANGEABLE THING
AFTER THE NIGHT, THE MORNING
THEN ALL DARKNESS CEASES
AFTER LIFE'S CARES AND SORROWS
THE COMFORT AND SWEETNESS OF PEACE.

Bless you, Joe for being such a caring husband.

7 comments:

  1. Dora, Thank you for the encouraging words. Life has certainly been a changeable thing this year. Faye and Joe must appreciate your faithful friendship.

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  2. Dear Dora,
    A beautiful sentiment and tribute to your friends, Faye and Joe. It is so sad to experience the loss of our dear old friends. Change can be very painful. May you be blessed with the memories of your beautiful long friendship.

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  3. Dora, your thoughtful story gave me pause to reflect on life's changes. When I was a teenager I couldn't wait to be in my twenties, summers ans holidays seemed to take too long to get here, friends were healthy and in our lives.
    Now I've had to say good bye to many friends, holidays and summer are gone before I get to enjoy them all in the way I'd hoped to.

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  4. Dear Dora,
    When change happens gradually it is easier. We sense the differences, but we have time to get used to each one of them. When it comes suddenly, then it pulls us up short and we begin to see the whole picture of how change has been working all along, even though we have not been aware of it so much. When it is sudden it often throws us off balance for a while but it seems as if Joe is using his strength to enable himself to withstand the pain he must be feeling. The caring poem which you wrote for him can help him hold fast and relax into better times of peace and harmony.

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  5. Many life changes seem to be painful and it seems we are always reajusting our lives to deal with them. When we look back over life we see we have lived many different lives,some happier than others. You are right Dora, life does seems not to be fair but your poem shows a positive attitude and that is so necessary to carry us through to lif'e end.

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  6. Dear Dora,
    Your writing about your long-time friend Faye certainly reminds us to remember and cherish the ones we hold dear for we may lose them - sometimes gradually even as they live. And such a wonderful poem. How special that surely is for Joe who faces many changes in his life as he helplessly sees the changes in his wife of over 60 years. And bless you, Dora, for your kind ending: "Bless you, Joe, for being such a caring husband."

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  7. From Kacie:

    Dora,
    What a moving story! It's really sad sometimes the lanes that life goes down, but you are blessed knowing such a person as Faye, and she is surely blessed knowing you.
    Kacie

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