Steve and I put away most of our Christmas decorations today (though we
still have plenty of work to do tomorrow to finish this task). “Putting away
Christmas” is always a tiring job and involves so much after-Christmas
clean-up. Yet it is a sweet time, in its own way. We listen to Christmas music
for the last time of the season, and we remember the sweet and quirky moments
from the last couple of weeks. We also give thanks for the gift of loved ones
who have shared Christmases with us in the past – and some who have joined our
family circle in recent years. So as we close out this season
it is appropriate to post one more Christmas story. This one is a very special memory of someone
who had a profound effect on Annette, an effect that continues to bless her
many years later.
Laurie smiled all the time. She expressed deep
heart-felt thanks to God for her life, the eternal kind. She was thankful for
her sons, thankful that she was on the waiting list for a kidney transplant,
and thankful for our friendship. Eventually Laurie was completely wheelchair
bound but that didn’t stop her from coming over to visit. She could push the
wheels on her chair at first until she became too weak and then her son took
over. We would laugh together and talk for hours.
As the Christmas season began slipping down the
slope of the post -Thanksgiving hill, Laurie’s health began slipping into a
painful slope of 4x weekly dialysis. I didn’t understand Laurie as she smiled
and said, “I love you.” I would sit with her to help her make the process
somewhat bearable. I went as often as I could.
On Christmas Day, Laurie was in the hospital.
A few days before Christmas, some Central American
neighbors invited me to make tamales with them. Making tamales was a time of
fun and laughter, steamy kitchens, sticky masa hands, and passing around
bottles of vino, and cervaza. Multiple families and neighbors would crowd into
the small spaces, dancing around one another, playfully elbowing each other –
throwing back their heads in laughter and singing.
I had found a tamale recipe in a cookbook that
involved making the ingredients from scratch. After placing a spoonful of the
red or green sauce and chicken in the middle of the masa, Mexican cheese was
placed on top. They were then enclosed in masa, blanketed with corn husks and
finally steamed until all the flavors melded.
Laurie called me and said she would be
hospitalized for a while. I took her some of the tamales. She hadn’t eaten real
food for days. She was dying. Laurie’s mouth creased into a big shining smile.
“I love you,” she said. I placed the tamales on her lap, and a fork in her
hand.
“Mmm…mmm…mmm…mmm…mmm.”
I smiled. We talked and we laughed and she ate
tamales.
A few days into the New Year, the hospital called
to tell me she had just a few days left. I was the only visitor she ever had.
She saw me coming and her face glowed with a heavenly smile.
“I love you. Don’t be sad. Thank you for the
tamales, they were a heavenly gift.”
“I love you,” I said. I smiled an earthly smile.
Laurie now wears a different halo. I imagine it’s
made of gold and she’s wiping tamale off her face.
Dear Annette, though the experience of losing a friend is sad, it is glorious to know that you made a difference in the time she had left. You wore a halo, as you did God's work. You feed her body and her soul, and for that she had a smile for you and ejoyed the tamale all the more. And I love you all the more for that too.
ReplyDeleteFrom Charlotte ~
ReplyDeleteAnnette what a sweet story, you were an angel. Thanks for sharing.
Annette, your story is beautifully told, but it leaves me anxious and sad for her two sons. Were they with their father? There are so many people who are so alone like Laurie - it was a blessing for you as well as Laurie to give her so much comfort at that time. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteCarol
Laurie's husband left her after she became ill but her sons lived with him after she died. Her sons would help her when she was alive.
ReplyDeleteDear Annette,
ReplyDeleteYour story is so tender and warm because you are. As I sit here and wipe the tears from my checks, I understand how lucky Laurie was to have such a friend!
From Charlene ~
ReplyDeleteDear Annette,
You have lovingly touched the lives of so many humans with a variety of challenges and animals as well. You're a wonderful writer, and your tender story was so descriptive through your marvelous use of words. Laurie was a very appreciative individual, and she must have really appreciated haviing you as her very caring, unselfish friend.
Charlene
From Loie ~
ReplyDeleteAnnette's story was beautiful! It kept my interest and made me want to read on. Annette was certainly a true friend.
Love, Loie